CH - here we go again........

[BurlyBeaR]

My DH works with someone who is dating her after keeping it to myself,I can no longer:mysmilie_495:

RD you really mustn't feel under any obligation to spill.

But if you do feel the need to "unload" I'd like you to know I have a sympathetic ear :0)

 

[Capirossi]

but that's the point isn't it - you don't brag about it.

i can sympathise with the tuts - when i was married, because we had no kids, we got it all the time. mainly from my family, not the ex's. if i was told once how selfish i am, i was told a million times. never mind not knowing any of my business, like friends i've helped out, charities i've donated to etc. all i was was selfish for - gasp! - spending the money i worked 100 hrs a week for, on myself. mostly on a house and car at that!

We're such a selfish breed us childless Janie and we have two heads!!

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[BurlyBeaR]

I think those of us who haven't got children and who work can feel mightily proud of the contribution we have made to educating, feeding, clothing and keeping healthy the nations youth via our taxes. And as far as I'm concerned that allows us to spend our hard earned money on exactly what we want with no guilt about "selfishness" whatsoever.

 

[Flamenco]

Burlz, you can feel cozy and content in the knowledge that you'll probably get a "rebate" in your later years as those grown up children in turn work and pay tax to keep you in a state pension and in free healthcare! Swings in roundabouts!

 

[janie]

Burlz, you can feel cozy and content in the knowledge that you'll probably get a "rebate" in your later years as those grown up children in turn work and pay tax to keep you in a state pension and in free healthcare! Swings in roundabouts!

not if we have private pensions. besides, the state pension will probably be stopped by the time we get there. looks like the winter fule allowance and the bus pas are already on the cards so they can keep those who've never worked and never will, in booze, fags and weed.

 

[janie]

i have to say i am never jealous of people with big houses and flashy cars. envious maybe but never jealous because i have huge respect for people who spend their money - whether they've worked hard for it or not. the ones who wind me up are the ones who are tight as a crab's ass and have millions in the bank.

 

[Flamenco]

not if we have private pensions. besides, the state pension will probably be stopped by the time we get there. looks like the winter fule allowance and the bus pas are already on the cards so they can keep those who've never worked and never will, in booze, fags and weed.

Well, hopefully there will still be the NHS which is rather heavily frequented by those of a certain age. The next generation of tax payers are needed to pay to build and maintain the roads you drive on, to help pay for your rubbish to be collected (your council tax doesn't cover all of that), your free prescriptions, for the police to keep you safe, the army to keep our country safe and so on and so forth. Don't knock us lot producing the tax payers of tomorrow either!

 

[Vivalas]

It's all down to personal choice at the end of the day isn't it?
Handbags and shoes are not my thing, but I have 2 expensive watches that some would call frivilous purchases .I dont care becuse I love and admire them every day!

Me two, I collect watches which I also see as an investment. Plus if you divide the cost by the number of days you wear it you get good value for money. Unlike other purchases I've made in the past.

 

[BurlyBeaR]

Burlz, you can feel cozy and content in the knowledge that you'll probably get a "rebate" in your later years as those grown up children in turn work and pay tax to keep you in a state pension and in free healthcare! Swings in roundabouts!

Except that I've been funding my own pension since I was 18. As for healthcare ill have made my fair share of contributions to that from national insurance seeing as I haven't been out of full time work since I was 16.

I don't begrudge anybody anything (except the scroungers) and neither do I feel guilty about anything. I do sometimes think it would be easier to drop out, go on the dole and let the state pick up the bill for the rest of my life though.

 

[janie]

Well, hopefully there will still be the NHS which is rather heavily frequented by those of a certain age. The next generation of tax payers are needed to pay to build and maintain the roads you drive on, to help pay for your rubbish to be collected (your council tax doesn't cover all of that), your free prescriptions, for the police to keep you safe, the army to keep our country safe and so on and so forth. Don't knock us lot producing the tax payers of tomorrow either!

i've never criticised anyone for having kids and i can't imagine anyone would. who would want the world to end with our generation? however, if you don't have kids, many people think it gives them the right to demand to know why not. it is often followed with being told how selfish you are - they eveidently believe it's right to bring unwanted children into the world.

 

[rainbowdottie]

RD you really mustn't feel under any obligation to spill.

But if you do feel the need to "unload" I'd like you to know I have a sympathetic ear :0)

Well BB...just between you and me :mysmilie_17:

The story as it goes to date.

Some while ago my DH came home from work to find me watching QVC (nothing unusual there then)
Mr RD ~ "oh thats weird S from work has not stopped bragging he's dating a presenter from QVC"
*ears prick up*
Me ~ " That'll be CH then?!"
Mr RD ~ in astonishment " WTF?! How do you know that?!"
Me ~ "I just do...power of elimination in 5 seconds" *quite embarrassed that I knew so quickly who's attached and who could be on the market....

So that was the initial conversation and I've been trying to dig for gossip ever since.I know S is divorced with 2 primary school children (wonder how CH feels about being a step-mum??!!) and I know apparently S is most indiscreet at work about her,their relationship,their life........but my DH's having no part of it :angry: apparently he *neither cares what they do...or who she is* ~ other than *I'd wish he'd shut up about her*....but WOW wish I was hearing it all :call:

I must butter Mr RD up to get more info :glass::beer: shes evidently quite a catch to S......whilst we all really know shes a potty old bint who can't keep a man :mysmilie_847:

 

[BurlyBeaR]

my DH's having no part of it :angry: apparently he *neither cares what they do...or who she is* ~ other than *I'd wish he'd shut up about her*....but WOW wish I was hearing it all :call:

I must butter Mr RD up to get more info :glass::beer: shes evidently quite a catch to S......whilst we all really know shes a potty old bint who can't keep a man :mysmilie_847:

Oh ****** hell aren't straight men USELESS?? Ok RD, you're now officially on a mission. I don't care how you do it but get the goss and report back! How about an impromptu NYE party for lots of lovely workmates... And their PARTNERS!!!

Do not let us down...

 

[janie]

slip a dictaphone in his pocket

 

[BurlyBeaR]

"Is that a dictaphone in your pocket or are you just pleased to see me?"

 

[Vienna]

Thankfully people now have a choice whether to have kids or not and that`s as it should be. My oldest son has 2 daughters who he adores, my middle son is childless by choice. He and his partner are both career minded, both have worked hard to get where they are and neither of them are interested in children. I tell him to take no notice of those who think its their business to find out why he hasn`t got kids and the few people he`s spoken to about it all seemed shocked that someone actually chooses to be child free. My oldest son is a wonderful Dad, my middle son wouldn`t be and I don`t mean that nastily, he`d admit it himself. He`s a Police Detective, his partner is a Prof of Microbiology and both work long hours and neither of them show the slightest interest in children, in fact I don`t think they even like children and they both think kids should be hatched from eggs at the age of 18 complete with GCSE`s, A Levels and perfect house training !

 

[Flamenco]

i've never criticised anyone for having kids and i can't imagine anyone would. who would want the world to end with our generation? however, if you don't have kids, many people think it gives them the right to demand to know why not. it is often followed with being told how selfish you are - they eveidently believe it's right to bring unwanted children into the world.

I agree. I wouldn't dream of questioning why someone chooses not to have children. Its none of my business! I just got the impression that those of you who don't have children are resentful towards those of us that do - because you feel you are paying for our choices.

 

[janie]

I agree. I wouldn't dream of questioning why someone chooses not to have children. Its none of my business! I just got the impression that those of you who don't have children are resentful towards those of us that do - because you feel you are paying for our choices.

not at all but i do feel that way for the jeremy kyle types.

 

[Flamenco]

not at all but i do feel that way for the jeremy kyle types.

On that point you are not alone!

 

[iloveshopping]

I agree. I wouldn't dream of questioning why someone chooses not to have children. Its none of my business! I just got the impression that those of you who don't have children are resentful towards those of us that do - because you feel you are paying for our choices.

Just relieved I didn't have any. I couldn't have coped.

 

[DebraJane]

Flippin heck you lot I can't leave you alone for 5 mins and you're bickering lol - this thread has become very deep and meaningful although I liked the suggestion that we're all round to RD's for a New Years party....

Now RD you're not to feel under any pressure to squeeze more information out of your OH but if you do manage it we are all here to allow you to unburden - just think of ST as a confessional
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