I am the same as Busy Mum, Nikki. I get very upset when I hear things like this. I can't even listen to the local news sometimes because it can all seem too much. I have been praying for Nigel since you wrote about him - I hope his family can come to terms with their loss, and that God showers his mercy on them. I for one believe that we never lose something, without gaining in some way, even though it is hard to see it sometimes. I wish they find peace.
Sorry for your loss too, and keep on doing what you're doing. I bet it's a real comfort. Every community needs people like you who look out for others.