caretodiffer
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:sad::mysmilie_853: Oh, Janie, am so sorry, I feel so sad for you, sending a great big hug to you.exactly liam - somewhere in my grief i feel indignant (tears as i type now) - it doesn't matter that i'm 60. i want my mum
I lost my father when I was 23 and I still miss him badly, and I was not at home and could not even attend the funeral and my brain kind of blanked the actual day for many years and I could not tell the years when people asked me which year he passed away and they thought it was strange, but I think my brain just blanked it, because I was not there to grieve and say a farewell to him.
A few years later, when I was doing my counselling course, during a session ,my lecturer asked me to write down the things I wanted to say to him, and my farewell to him in a piece of paper , and with the support of my colleagues, had me burn that paper. It helped me a little bit... but even after all these years, my heart hurts when I think of him, a feeling that is hard to describe.
When we see our loved ones suffering from illnesses or pain, we want death to release them from that pain , but we still do not want them to go, for once they are gone, that's it, finito and they are so precious to us. I just cannot say what I feel I want to:sad:
There is never a right way to grieve and we all do it in different ways.