I guess some deaths are easier to accept and deal with than others. For example a very aged spouse or parent may be less traumatic than a child or young adult son or daughters sudden death. I agree if you are able , getting back to work probably helps.
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I'm so glad you took that view, because an unexpected death over the holidays does up the 'shock factor' even more. My 53 year old husband collapsed with a heart attack on New Years Day - no warnings, nothing. I had the 2 weeks off for funeral arrangements, then went back to work, otherwise as BB says, what do you do except ruminate and climb the walls, and it was the best thing possible, just like your employee. A nightmare to begin with, but then the routine of 'life' helps better than any Counsellor can.
Again you are SO right, it was the journey home and going to an empty house that was the killer. So I would haunt the shopping malls until they closed, just for company and life going on. I quickly realised that only ME could get me through the tough times, nobody else.
LOL at Tova admonishing Jill Franks for using the word 'smellivision' and telling her it 'sounds so plebian' :grin:
'Gifts for plebs' and 'we've got the pleb season coming up'.Wait a few days and Franks will be mis-using the pleb word!
I lost my mum year last April suddenly at 92. I still can't look at pictures of her. Only now am I able to remember the younger version of mum as her frailty of the last years of her life were hard to accept. Mums are supposed to be invincible, a childish thought but one that doesn't leave you just because you become an adult.
exactly liam - somewhere in my grief i feel indignant (tears as i type now) - it doesn't matter that i'm 60. i want my mum
I think the experts would suggest getting back to work as soon as possible is the best plan. You can't expect employers to support people while they take weeks off after a bereavement. Not with everything else they have to support, maternity and paternity leave as an example. And anyway, what do people do if they're not at work? Sit at home crying or moping? Thinking about their loss and how unhappy they feel? I'm not minimising the devastation people feel after a death but I don't think being off work is going to make anything better. After watching my own father die from cancer over a period of 3 months I can honestly say that getting back into a normal routine quickly helped. My mum, whose routine revolved around him, struggled more.
Tova is no doubt lucky to she isn't turning up at an office or vfactory every day, but appearances on tv are booked months ahead, Ernie was probably still alive when this visit was put in the diary. And let's not forget the brand is owned by QVC, she has an employer who would want her to fulfil her commitment. Good on her for not bailing out.