Alison Young
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That’s how I like to treat people.
Judge them on how they are rather than making judgements about what they are.
My best friend has hippy parents and she’s completely like them.
I am nothing like that but we get on so well.
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maymorganlondon
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I was thinking the same. He practically lived at Q until some acting work showed up, then he dropped Q like a hot brick.
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I wish my feet could be re-aligned. I would attach a photo but I don't want to put people off their dinner
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In the world of logistics I've seen many sights but a driver get out of his cab in stilettos,short leather skirt & nail varnish, that was a day to remember. It takes guts to do that (or balls,pardon the pun). I try to be open minded on all this trans stuff but that guy to me was being honest,showing his true self. Kudos to him.
My whole bodyI wish my feet could be re-aligned. I would attach a photo but I don't want to put people off their dinner
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I’m surprised QVC say men’s fashion wouldn’t sell. I would have thought women would snap up garments for their husbands and sons. Perhaps the men themselves arrange returns rather than hold on to stuff and miss the 60 mbg deadline.
Best advice is to ignore all the labels if they get you angry/upset. So, I'm fully with you Jazz.
In the world of logistics I've seen many sights but a driver get out of his cab in stilettos,short leather skirt & nail varnish, that was a day to remember. It takes guts to do that (or balls,pardon the pun). I try to be open minded on all this trans stuff but that guy to me was being honest,showing his true self. Kudos to him.
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Fair enough. Dress however you wish. There is no law saying men have to wear men's clothes.
However, I try to abide by my own law of if you respect me, I will respect you. The issue I have with trans is that putting on women's clothes does NOT make you a woman. If a man has so little respect for women that he will happily identify as one despite the women in their own spaces being clearly uncomfortable (or, in my niece's case, hysterical after catching a man drying his genitals under the dryer in the ladies) that he won't leave, he clearly has no regard for how it 'feels' to be a woman.
Even worse are the ones that pull out their phones to film women who dare to ask him to leave and then have the cheek to moan about their 'hurt feelings' on SM.
Years ago women would happily share facilities with the occasional genuine man in women's clothes - back then they'd make an effort, do their business and leave (like a normal woman). Now, they wander in with bushy beards and awful eyeshadow then proceed to make a fuss about tampons and toilet roll, pee standing with the door open then film their 'experience' without taking into consideration the women trying to use the loos. That was actually told to me when I had my mammogram. I'd requested a female (though my idea of a female seems to be different from many others), was told I couldn't choose but did end up having a Muslim radiographer who congratulated my courage for asking.
Interestingly, the radiographer told me that her colleagues take the very occasional biological man from her list out of respect for her religion. They also take transmen for her even though they're still biologically female.
There have been MANY instances of men in the press over the last few years that have abused the 'trans' umbrella. Too many. Is it any wonder women are starting to stand up to men over the issue? It does make me feel sad for genuine cases of both sexes going down the trans route. However, no matter how you feel or what you do, you cannot change your biological sex. Common sense needs to prevail.
ETA that AY clearly doesn't have any. If any salesperson on the High Street waffled a load of PC BS the way she tries they'd be sent for re-training quick sharp!
I've only ever had a female radiographer do my mammogram I don't think our hospital has any male radiographers in the dept.
I had a male consultant examine me when I had to have a BRCA investigation but he had a female nurse with him.
In fact in every case when I've been examined by a male doctor there has always been a female nurse or other with me.
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Not so relevant, but I hate that. I understand the reason, but find it embarrassing. If I have a choice (don't) I'd sooner the chaperone left. I find it so inconsiderate when the doc calls one in on the telephone without even asking ME if I want one!
madaunty
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I seem to be a magnet for “trainees” to sit in on appointments . Anaesthesia (minor op), physio, dentist, smear, mammogram, x-ray… “would you mind if so and so stays, blah, blah, blah.
Always said yes, we’ve all got to learn.
I think it's a protection for doctor and patient.
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More for his protection than yours I think.
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I know it's for protection, etc, but it is not polite to just make the phone call asking 'for a chaperone' without, at the very least, acknowledging (to me) his intention. The polite & respectful thing, of course, would be to ask me if I wanted one, or 'do you mind if.....'
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Years ago I had dreadful toothache and my dentist was on holiday. There was a walk in hospital clinic you could attend for emergencies which was a training facility. The main dentist was trained and there was a student assisting. I had an infection and was in a bad way. The treatment was excellent but pretty traumatic, loads of injections, my tears were flowing. At the end I saw the shocked look on the student's face, hopefully I didn't put him off dentistry
. He was very kind though. I've never had an observer for a mammogram though. I've had 2 and treated with the utmost dignity and respect both times. Both were in portacabins and no men were allowed in to the van to escort their wives/partners. Radiologist was female as well.
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Frankly, the chaperone is for the male Dr's benefit.
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Just focusing on the earlier mentioned subject of dentistry - about a month into the lockdown in April 2020, my wife had just got back out of hospital after being very close to dying, and was now home with me. She was in a very weak state and arguably should’ve still been in the QMC.. I therefore was her only carer with absolutely no external support whatsoever.
Apart from it being an horrendous and frightening time for everybody, my situation was compounded by developing the most terrible toothache. This came not long after nearly every dentist in the country shut their doors to seeing patients. I was in absolute agony with what turned out to be an abscess on one of my back teeth. First, I would try a hot water bottle, and after about 10 minutes, I was in agony again, then a pack of frozen peas, and the same thing happened soon after. There was absolutely no proper respite from the pain, with my wife needing frequent looking after at the same time.
I really didn’t know how I was going to continue without some kind of dental help, and in the end had to ring my usual dentist where I was a private patient and literally beg to be triaged to one of the only dentists in the county of Nottinghamshire, still seeing patients. I remember crying down the phone to the person at my dentist who was responsible for making referrals. This in a supposed modern and caring society that we in this country are led to believe we are supposed to be.
I then had to wait what seemed forever for a call back and eventually was given instructions to attend a dentist in Keyworth, where I had to wait outside the door, like some loitering, suspect for about half an hour with the door suddenly opening of being ushered inside. It felt like I was part of some seedy drugs transaction, rather than just wanting to get my teeth looked at. I think I was probably in there for less than 20 minutes, given a painkilling injection, and had the tooth yanked out with a pair of dental pliers. At least after that, I was able to function again and look after my wife.
I will never forget that time for obvious reasons. I think the withdrawal from seeing patients by dentists during the pandemic was a massive shirking of their clinical responsibilities. The teeth are part of the body like any other organ, yet they were treated as some sort of meaningless accessory that didn’t need help or assistance when they went wrong. People essentially were left to rot along with their teeth. I think it was, and is an absolute scandal, along with the many others over how the Government handled events during the Pandemic.
Apart from it being an horrendous and frightening time for everybody, my situation was compounded by developing the most terrible toothache. This came not long after nearly every dentist in the country shut their doors to seeing patients. I was in absolute agony with what turned out to be an abscess on one of my back teeth. First, I would try a hot water bottle, and after about 10 minutes, I was in agony again, then a pack of frozen peas, and the same thing happened soon after. There was absolutely no proper respite from the pain, with my wife needing frequent looking after at the same time.
I really didn’t know how I was going to continue without some kind of dental help, and in the end had to ring my usual dentist where I was a private patient and literally beg to be triaged to one of the only dentists in the county of Nottinghamshire, still seeing patients. I remember crying down the phone to the person at my dentist who was responsible for making referrals. This in a supposed modern and caring society that we in this country are led to believe we are supposed to be.
I then had to wait what seemed forever for a call back and eventually was given instructions to attend a dentist in Keyworth, where I had to wait outside the door, like some loitering, suspect for about half an hour with the door suddenly opening of being ushered inside. It felt like I was part of some seedy drugs transaction, rather than just wanting to get my teeth looked at. I think I was probably in there for less than 20 minutes, given a painkilling injection, and had the tooth yanked out with a pair of dental pliers. At least after that, I was able to function again and look after my wife.
I will never forget that time for obvious reasons. I think the withdrawal from seeing patients by dentists during the pandemic was a massive shirking of their clinical responsibilities. The teeth are part of the body like any other organ, yet they were treated as some sort of meaningless accessory that didn’t need help or assistance when they went wrong. People essentially were left to rot along with their teeth. I think it was, and is an absolute scandal, along with the many others over how the Government handled events during the Pandemic.
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Me too!
