I know a marriage is meant to be mutual support... but if it turns into one person exclusively doing certain things it can be hard to adapt in later life when one partner dies and the other has to carry on.
I’m in the same position as you Silver Fox and I sometimes think “poor me“ too but then I look around and see how my married friends are constantly compromising, even the “happily married” ones are always striving to keep their other half happy. It must be exhausting whilst I only need to please myself. I can watch what I want on the telly, eat what I want , when I want and turn the heating up to full if I want. No compromising here!
And, what goes on behind closed doors we can only imagine. Sometimes, when the front door bangs shut, Mr or Mrs Hyde emerges.
'What goes around, comes around', can very often prove true. I've seen it happen, and can't help but get a malicious kick out of it.
I have my own bereavements but I just can’t physically write them down .. 
I understand the pain of losing parents .. just can’t elaborate 
That's why I like LATting (Living Apart Together).
Yes I enjoyed LATing for about 18 years before me and my other half finally bought a house together, I have no regrets, but sometimes do miss a bit of time on my own, although that sounds terrible, but we do spend time apart as we both support different football teams so when we go off to matches its a bit of an escape, I would hate to be on my own full time but would have to get used to it if I am in that position at some point, sadly that's the way life goes and just got to get on with it
Me three. I have become a stranger to compromise at this stage in life.
Sending a big cyber hug back to you and others who feel the same levels of pain. As Queen Elizabeth II once said, grief is the price we pay for love; and as William Shakespeare said, better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.I’m so sorry for all your losses and I send a massive cyber hug to you all ..
This sounds very sensible. Achieving relationship milestones can sometimes be the knell of doom for a relationship. I have friends who stopped at moving in together and getting engaged 40 years ago. It worked for them. Others have seen their relationships founder on the rocks of increased commitment.
Horror stories in some cases. I have seen outwardly happy couples where physical violence is the norm behind closed doors, in some cases needing extensive dental work or plastic surgery. The resultant painkiller addiction, low self-esteem and guilt... with children witnessing this and even being subjected to violence themselves. One situation got so bad her (soon to be ex) husband did time for attempted murder... it's a good argument for resisting whirlwind romances, imo.
So that you have an entire
Knows which side his bread's buttered thenMr CC always rages "just one more ball of wool and I'm out of here". Funny but he's still here and he doesn't make such comments about the whisky collection. Cheers
CC
Knows which side his bread's buttered then
Do you knit CC or is the ball of wool for the cat to play with. This sounds a silly question, but it is genuine. Is the Mr the whisky collector?Knows which side his bread's buttered then
I do knit, I have a little sideline where I knit and sell dolls clothes to the Americans. All above board. We can't have a cat as Bry would chase it until it died.
I agree. She looked lovely.
Thank you for explaining. I'm the same way with chocolate. If it's in the house, I will eat it. And not only one square either. I have no control, so the bar will be gone in no time. Bri would be jealous of a cat, since he's the capo.
JR did look nice in the dress. I noticed one withering expression on JR's face directed at Jenny when Jenny mentioned eating sausages outside in the garden while wearing Kim's warm beany hat. Either JR doesn't approve of meat eaters or she felt the attention had left her and passed to Jenny. It seems ridiculous, but these petty power struggles between presenters show up often and it's interesting to notice them. And funny, too.
Julia is vegetarian. Well at least she used to be, and I’ve not heard her say anything to make me think she’s now an omnivore
Both liking a wee nip made me laugh. Such a Scottish description! Is it cold enough for a wee nip today? Seems unusually hot here (Scotland too) but maybe it’s always a good evening for a wee nip in your house (no offence meant)?
