Quite often on this forum peple have made a huge fuss about T. callers calling in and telling everyone about their personal problems in fact they have said derisory things about them but when a presenter does the same thing people are so sympathetic towards them and I can't understand why that should be or are presenters above critism. I don't think so. Julia should practice what she preaches.
There is a world of difference between someone phoning in and telling the presenters of their ailments or loss of a loved one and making personal, callous and rude comments to a presenter.
In the case of the former, many of those who call are housebound, lonely, often elderly, souls who tend to regard the presenters as their friends. Cringeworthy, I know, but in truth that box in the corner often brings the only company they have on a day to day basis. I know something of that loneliness myself but I do have my husband at home for 11 hours every night so at least have some company to talk with, face to face, for a couple of those precious hours before he needs to sleep.
When your family is all around you and you are able to get out and about to do your own shopping, have your hair done, go out to meet friends and have a meal etc. it is difficult to imagine what it is like to be totally alone apart from the odd help popping in from time to time to bath you or do your shopping and household chores because you can no longer do them. Many of the elderly cannot afford or do not understand computers so even the internet is not an option for them to alleviate the monotony of their lonely lives. You and I are lucky in being computer literate, many of our generation and beyond are not.
Yes, those callers do make me cringe too but I also feel great pity for them and what sad lives they must be living if they feel the need to pour out their woes to someone they see on a box in the corner of their room.
The T caller who made the comments to Julia was someone who probably never thinks of the consequences of what they say to anyone and just says what they think instead of engaging their brain before opening their mouth. There are numerous reasons for someone gaining weight, including serious illness and for more understanding people asking even a close friend why they have put on weight requires much tact and diolomacy. To simply blurt it out is downright thoughtless and shows great ignorance.
Hopefully Julia's reply will make her think but I doubt it because her apology, which I heard, was said in a defensive way, without any feeling behind it at all, which means that she has absolutley no understandstanding of the rawness Julia still feels following the loss of her Dad.
