Sorry this does concern my "set in her ways" friend. As you know she'll plan months in advance for the most mundane of things. She is getting married this coming May. Neither herself, or her partner are religious, they don't want a big fussy affair and they don't want to spend a lot of money. They have opted for a civil partnership. I know for a fact that the only reason she's doing this is because she wants security, so should they split he can't turn her out onto the streets (his house you see). The ceremony is the most basic you can get, it's called "you and two" I believe. I feel honoured to be one of the two (a witness that is), the other is one of his mates. There will be no spoken vows, by all accounts the registrar reads through the rules so to speak, then both parties sign the register and off you go! Somebody mentioned it at her "party" yesterday, and she told us that weather permitting the after party open to everybody would be on the beach and bring yer own booze! Failing that a pub crawl starting in Wetherspoon's cause it opens early. Her workmate said she's just taken up photography and has bought herself a decent camera so she'll be happy to bring it and take some lovely photos, this was met with Nah, don't worry we've all got our phones!
When asked whether they'd be exchanging rings, surprisingly she said yes, he wears a stainless steel ring anyway so he's gonna wear it on the other hand now and her ring cost £26.50 from Argos! Neither of them are broke, and whilst I understand wanting to keep costs down, as weddings can be a hideous waste of money, but surely they'd want to spend a little bit more on something that's supposed to be as enduring as the marriage itself!
She told us that her mother offered to buy her a dress, she said she didn't want one as it would be pointless buying something she'd never wear again, we said well it doesn't have to be a wedding dress does it? She said I don't go any were remotely dressy any more so not worth it, so I asked her to buy me a jacket and I'll probably wear that on the day, Oh, ok what's it like, she said it's upstairs I'll bring it down in a minute had to buy it now 'cause it was in a sale and there was only one in my size left - It was a faux fur bright magenta hooded jacket with teddy bear ears!!!! There was a few open mouths so I piped up "won't it be a bit hot it May to wear something like that"? Nah she said, May can be very unpredictable and is often cold, if it's a nice day I won't wear it!
Her family aren't invited cause she thinks they'll be bored.
I don't get it, something as significant as this that actually requires a bit of forward planning and she doesn't want to know, but a few drinks in the local park requires military precision!
I have to say I am a bit disappointed, as I love a good wedding and haven't been to one for years, but it's not my day it's theirs, but I find it quite upsetting to see something like this treated with so much apathy especially when on another thread on the subject illustrated the struggles some of us faced as newly weds who struggled with very little money to try and make a memorable day for themselves and their loved ones!
Can anyone get their heads around this, given the background information I've given in the past - 'cause I don't think I can lol!
When asked whether they'd be exchanging rings, surprisingly she said yes, he wears a stainless steel ring anyway so he's gonna wear it on the other hand now and her ring cost £26.50 from Argos! Neither of them are broke, and whilst I understand wanting to keep costs down, as weddings can be a hideous waste of money, but surely they'd want to spend a little bit more on something that's supposed to be as enduring as the marriage itself!
She told us that her mother offered to buy her a dress, she said she didn't want one as it would be pointless buying something she'd never wear again, we said well it doesn't have to be a wedding dress does it? She said I don't go any were remotely dressy any more so not worth it, so I asked her to buy me a jacket and I'll probably wear that on the day, Oh, ok what's it like, she said it's upstairs I'll bring it down in a minute had to buy it now 'cause it was in a sale and there was only one in my size left - It was a faux fur bright magenta hooded jacket with teddy bear ears!!!! There was a few open mouths so I piped up "won't it be a bit hot it May to wear something like that"? Nah she said, May can be very unpredictable and is often cold, if it's a nice day I won't wear it!
Her family aren't invited cause she thinks they'll be bored.
I don't get it, something as significant as this that actually requires a bit of forward planning and she doesn't want to know, but a few drinks in the local park requires military precision!
I have to say I am a bit disappointed, as I love a good wedding and haven't been to one for years, but it's not my day it's theirs, but I find it quite upsetting to see something like this treated with so much apathy especially when on another thread on the subject illustrated the struggles some of us faced as newly weds who struggled with very little money to try and make a memorable day for themselves and their loved ones!
Can anyone get their heads around this, given the background information I've given in the past - 'cause I don't think I can lol!
