Sorry to dampen Christmas but need to talk.....

[Muttley]

Merryone, this is so sad, my condolences to your family. Your daughter in law must be absolutely devastated, how do you ever get over something like that? You just never know what is going through people's minds, sometimes people believe their family would be better off without them despite them being loved. I'm so sorry for you and your family x

 

[MrMarple]

Nobody ever really knows what someone else is going through.
For example, I suffer from crippling depression but nobody apart from the few people who read this post will ever know about it, not my family, not my friends and not my colleagues and I work extremely hard to make sure that it stays that way. Most people would hopefully assume that I’m a nice happy go lucky kind of guy and in many ways that is true but when the fog hits me, it’s so debilitating that I’m not sure how I’ll get through it. But I do and the cycle begins again. I’m not suicidal and I never really have been but what I’m trying to say is that if I was, I’m pretty sure that 99% of the people I know would be shocked because I’m an expert in masking it.

 

[Lilo Lil]

Awww Mr M …

 

[Grizelda]

Nobody ever really knows what someone else is going through.
For example, I suffer from crippling depression but nobody apart from the few people who read this post will ever know about it, not my family, not my friends and not my colleagues and I work extremely hard to make sure that it stays that way. Most people would hopefully assume that I’m a nice happy go lucky kind of guy and in many ways that is true but when the fog hits me, it’s so debilitating that I’m not sure how I’ll get through it. But I do and the cycle begins again. I’m not suicidal and I never really have been but what I’m trying to say is that if I was, I’m pretty sure that 99% of the people I know would be shocked because I’m an expert in masking it.

I admire your post.

 

[maymorganlondon]

Nobody ever really knows what someone else is going through.
For example, I suffer from crippling depression but nobody apart from the few people who read this post will ever know about it, not my family, not my friends and not my colleagues and I work extremely hard to make sure that it stays that way. Most people would hopefully assume that I’m a nice happy go lucky kind of guy and in many ways that is true but when the fog hits me, it’s so debilitating that I’m not sure how I’ll get through it. But I do and the cycle begins again. I’m not suicidal and I never really have been but what I’m trying to say is that if I was, I’m pretty sure that 99% of the people I know would be shocked because I’m an expert in masking it.

It would be inappropriate to heart this post. It is a very personal decision how you cope with any health concern, be it physical or mental. You have to decide if it will have a detrimental effect on your relationships or will strengthen them.
You are a tough cookie, that's for sure. I hope you know how strong you are, but also that you do have somewhere and someone you can turn to for help and support when you need it.
And thank you for the trust your post shows.