Oh Twi, I am so sorry this is still going on. It seems very cruel, both to you and Mr T, but also to their kids. This alone would be enough to mess with your mental health, without any of the other shocks you experienced.
hug.
This was a really considerate, thoughtful way of dealing with that FY1. Not ignoring something which clearly needed dealing with, but equally not going in there shouting and screaming, making a huge scene and making the FY1 feel that she was some terrible person. Lovely.
Thank you
She said it to her dad but I think it was a joint decision. Because it's a fairly long journey for small children we've always been the ones to do the travelling & every time we've gone out for meals we've paid - even when it was my Mr T's 60th. She must have 'gone off' me, we have gone from being a mum/daughter who talked several times a week, were each other's best shopping partner & laughed a lot to not having anything to say to each other. I don't know if I'm being punished but do know that I don't recognise the person she's become.
Thank you, I can't see it ever being resolved & there's only so many times that I can make the first move.Oh Twi, I am so sorry this is still going on. It seems very cruel, both to you and Mr T, but also to their kids. This alone would be enough to mess with your mental health, without any of the other shocks you experienced.
Ours hasn't opened its doors since March last year. Patients have to queue outside to arrange whatever they need, they've stopped all screening & clinic appointments & the pharmacy staff open a window & post the medication out. There are 30,000+ patients registered & it's always been difficult to get an appointment, I'd like to know what the staff are doing as they're definitely not doing their jobs.
Absolutely! I think that the lockdowns have given them the perfect excuse to ignore us & our other daughter. It's been nearly 6 months since my husband was told he had tears in both retinas & I've never been asked how I'm feeling & no interest has ever been shown in our 'local' granddaughter & I can't see it being any different when the baby due in the summer is born. They appear to be perfectly happy in their bubble.
I've been reading your posts regarding your daughter for quite a while Twilight and I always get a real sense of unease with the way things have turned out. I really do hope things manage to work out for you all in the end, but do you think there could possibly be a degree of coercive control happening between your daughter and her husband?
I'm fairly certain that you're right & it's being exercised at a subliminal level. She has a career, lots of friends & adores her children but all they are also part of his life; we, on the other hand, belong to her past. I can only keep the door unlocked.
Oh Twilight, I am so sorry to read all this. A place of our choosing would be acceptable, indeed! You never know, they may have taken some sort of offence or just not be bothering much, but I do think you cannot underestimate the effect that lockdown has had on some people. So maybe there is no offence meant. Although were I in your place I can assure there would have been a lot of offence taken! As you say, all you can really do is leave the door open to any approach they decide to make as and when, and in the meantime just carry on in your own space.
I'm so sorry for you, Twi. You've always come across as quite a practical, stoical sort of person (qualities which I like greatly), but it must still hurt like hell. Just how unfair and unnecessary it all is.
That's what's so great about this forum - people genuinely care and are interested in their fellow forumites. Glad things seem to be moving forwards for you regarding your treatment options.
All I can say is, lucky you. No way would I describe any of the GPs in our locality as "brave", let alone "very brave". You're hard pressed to find anyone near here who has a good word to say about them, in fact, you don't ever hear that. And if you have actually seen that rare species, the GP, face to face, I and thousands of others are in awe. I had to have a dressing changed and was told off by the sister for being there when I should have gone to A&E. Whose time, presumably, would have been much better spent changing my dressing than saving the lives of people with covid. None of their so-called care-in-the-community clinics have run for well over a year so people with long-term conditions aren't monitored at all, let alone referred for treatment. I and countless others am disgusted by these overpaid so-called guardians of public health and want to know what they are actually doing in lockdown - apart from sitting in an office, speaking on the phone and diagnosing from just a patient's photo. My mother was trained to diagnose from the colour and firmness of the skin, the tongue, the eyes, the general demeanour of the patient - how can they do that over the phone? That's not brave, that's cowardly, avoiding risk to themselves at all costs.
Oh, no-one could ever be as self-indulgent and navel gazing as Prince Harry and his silly wife are. No worries there!A huge thank you to everyone for your comments today & on previous occasions. My moaning is threatening to become like the washing of dirty laundry that Mr H Sussex indulges in & I'm determined to never get like that
I agree with you 100%. My mum's GP suspected that she had cancer but it was when he looked at her fingernails that he got things moving really quickly. he said that he'd been trained to look at the whole patient.All I can say is, lucky you. No way would I describe any of the GPs in our locality as "brave", let alone "very brave". You're hard pressed to find anyone near here who has a good word to say about them, in fact, you don't ever hear that. And if you have actually seen that rare species, the GP, face to face, I and thousands of others are in awe. I had to have a dressing changed and was told off by the sister for being there when I should have gone to A&E. Whose time, presumably, would have been much better spent changing my dressing than saving the lives of people with covid. None of their so-called care-in-the-community clinics have run for well over a year so people with long-term conditions aren't monitored at all, let alone referred for treatment. I and countless others am disgusted by these overpaid so-called guardians of public health and want to know what they are actually doing in lockdown - apart from sitting in an office, speaking on the phone and diagnosing from just a patient's photo. My mother was trained to diagnose from the colour and firmness of the skin, the tongue, the eyes, the general demeanour of the patient - how can they do that over the phone? That's not brave, that's cowardly, avoiding risk to themselves at all costs.
Twilight, I really feel that. You're probably at a loss to know what has caused your daughter to react like that, knowing that sometimes you just can't change things. But it's really painful for you and I think we all share that.
I‘m with you all the way, Crystal, it’s just the same round here. Our GP surgery hasn’t even picked up the phone since February last year. To even get a repeat prescription you have to ring another larger surgery in another town who two years ago came under the same banner as our village surgery. They receive countless complaints about ours not answering the phone & say they don’t know why as “ there’s definitely people in there”.. I’m eighteen months overdue for a blood test for my meds. Rang & rang to no avail. Then out of the blue a lady rang me from another village surgery twenty miles away! Reminded me I needed one & SHE sent me the form that I now have to take to the nearest hospital thirty miles away to have a blood test that my GP surgery used to do annually, will be two & a half years since my last check. Clap for them.....not for the GPs in this area. I’ve heard from a physio friend that the staff at the hospital are sick to death of them not doing their job so they end up overworked, dealing with things they shouldn’t need to.All I can say is, lucky you. No way would I describe any of the GPs in our locality as "brave", let alone "very brave". You're hard pressed to find anyone near here who has a good word to say about them, in fact, you don't ever hear that. And if you have actually seen that rare species, the GP, face to face, I and thousands of others are in awe. I had to have a dressing changed and was told off by the sister for being there when I should have gone to A&E. Whose time, presumably, would have been much better spent changing my dressing than saving the lives of people with covid. None of their so-called care-in-the-community clinics have run for well over a year so people with long-term conditions aren't monitored at all, let alone referred for treatment. I and countless others am disgusted by these overpaid so-called guardians of public health and want to know what they are actually doing in lockdown - apart from sitting in an office, speaking on the phone and diagnosing from just a patient's photo. My mother was trained to diagnose from the colour and firmness of the skin, the tongue, the eyes, the general demeanour of the patient - how can they do that over the phone? That's not brave, that's cowardly, avoiding risk to themselves at all costs.
Twilight, I really feel that. You're probably at a loss to know what has caused your daughter to react like that, knowing that sometimes you just can't change things. But it's really painful for you and I think we all share that.
I think that I would be inclined to change the locks! And there's me a practising Christian as well!
Not morbid at all. I love that new kitty photo, we've had several black & whites & I love a tuxedo cat
That's my smug Milo! We have had 3 tux cats but he is by far the funniest, friendliest and vocal!Not morbid at all. I love that new kitty photo, we've had several black & whites & I love a tuxedo cat
Thank you.
