Hello EM. Although I'm not in quite the same age bracket I have struggled with face cleansers over the years as I've always had skin problems of one sort or another. Years ago I used to have really bad acne and when I underwent Roaccutane treatment my skin became dry like parchment. Back then I tried a cleanser called "Purity Made Simple" by Philosophy. It was radically different to other cleansers in that it wasn't soap based and therefore didn't strip the skin. It almost felt like a very light lotion and had a pleasant and VERY subtle (almost nonexistent) fragrance that faintly resembled a custard tart - sort of a slight hint of vanilla. One just needed to apply the lotion then remove it with a cloth (or in my case, cotton wool). It was very gentle and to me was an absolute dream - as most cleansers use sodium laureth sulphate which can be very stripping.
I don't know if QVC still sell it - or indeed if Philosophy still make it, but it might be worth a try.
Another good one is Clinique's creamy facial cleanser - though designed for use with ultrasonic cleansers it can be used without. This is a brilliant product. One tiny little bit lathers up amazingly and leaves the skin feeling clean but not tight.
These days I can get away with using Simple's Age Resisting facial wash (from the dreaded high street) which only costs a few quid from Savers - don't get it at Boots - they charge more for it.
So there are a few suggestions - two premium, one ordinary.