If your posts on here are anything to go by, then I seriously doubt that's true!!! Off at a tangent (again!) I do wish people would treat slimmer people with a bit more respect. I've always been on the slim side but quite a few years ago I managed to pile on quite a few pounds and I didn't feel comfortable with it so I went to slimming world and it worked wonders and I managed to get down below my target weight. I remember we had to write our short and long term goals when we signed up and mine was to fit into a size 14 dress by the summer (this was round about March time) but by that summer my dress size was 10/12. I wasn't particularly interested in dropping any more dress sizes but keeping up with the Slimming World plan meant that I did, and it wasn't the kindly folk who were telling me that I'd taken it too far, that I looked gaunt, suggested that I wasn't eating enough (anyone who's done slimming world will know that isn't true) I knew I couldn't carry on on that trajectory so I returned to my old ways and although I did flesh out a bit more I settled back to a comfortable size 10/12 and for some reason I'm happy to stay I've remained that way. A couple of my friends love to have a "dig" which of course they dress up as concern "Have you lost more weight"? "You're looking really skinny" so of course I reply "no" (because it's true, I haven't) I get "are you sure?" How much do you weigh then?" Between 8st 7 and 9st I'd guess "PFFFT 7 stone more like was the response!!!!! After weighing myself later I was pretty much spot on as I was 8.st 8. Then a few weeks later we were at one of the friends houses and talk turned to weight and of course" we can't all be skinny minnies like Suz, how much did you say you weigh?" I told them AGAIN and said tell you what, have you got a set of bathroom scales? If so bring 'em down, so stripped of my boots and jumper I was left standing in a vest top and a pair of leggings and showed them that I weighed exactly what I said I did - Hmm they must be really thick leggings!!!! Another friend in this group who is a large lady joined slimming world with me but for some reason she didn't lose very much weight so resorted to having bariatic surgery, she lost a good 6 stone and it really suited her, unfortunately it's all gone back on, God knows how, she doesn't seem to eat much. Thing is with her nobody mentions it because it's socially unacceptable, well not in front of her anyway. I'll give them that they will compliment her on something else "That's nice pair of earrings, that's a pretty dress etc" and I'm all for that as everybody likes a compliment especially if they're feeling a bit down, but when her back is turned it's blimey she's piled it back on, and at the taxpayers expense, I mean she got that band on the NHS so it's us who've paid for that, I reminded the person who made that bitchy comment that she pays her taxes too and this surgery can be successful and has changed the lives of many people. The two main perpetrators of these comments about the too skinny and the too fat are neither slim nor fat. One is short and dumpy with large hips but dresses well for her shape, the other one is medium size but has a bit of a belly so is self conscious when wearing tighter fitting clothes and again dresses well for her shape, but they both seem to have a problem with what other people look like. I wouldn't dream of giving either of them anything but compliments! They can dress it up as concern all they like, they know us well enough to realise that we aren't starving ourselves/pigging out/regurgitating/vomiting/chugging down laxatives - Just what is wrong with people?! Genuine concern for friends and family is something that needs proper, discreet handling and meaningful conversations not bitchy comments!