Has my lightbulb moment arrived?

[historymystery]

May, thank you for taking the time to come on here and update us. There are no words, really, but I feel so much for her husband and family, and of course for you and your husband. Please God she will be peaceful, and as you say out of her pain. At least with kind friends like you and your husband her family know others are thinking of them, and this must help a little. Easy for someone else to say, I know, but I firmly believe that we never completely lose those we love - my Mum used to say "happy memories are the one thing no thief can ever take from you", and it's so true. They are ours to keep, hopefully for the rest of our lives. Do hope her husband will have many happy memories to treasure and comfort him in the time ahead. xx

Hello lovelies ...my neihbours wife is still in a poorly way ...to say the least ...she does not want to go to a hospice so her dear hubby is looking after her .....he still has a walk with the dogs when the nurses take overl...it is keeping him sane bless him and the ladies who usually walk in the same area give him a hug when they see him ...my hubby saw him and said we are thinking of you and he put his hand on my Hubbys shoulder and said ..."Thank you mate" he looks so drawn and thin bless him ....( she keeps asking the nurses when her time will come bless her ...just heart wrenching ....)
Our other neighbour who walks the doggies with him said to me that they try to have a little laugh to ease the tension ...this is all literally keeping him sane... I will leave this thread as it stands and I would imagine the new year might bring the news I don't want to deliver ....it just means the dear soul will be out if her pain ......but her husbands of course and daughters will just be beginning....xx

 

[maymorganlondon]

So sorry to hear about your neighbour's wife, but glad of the update, May. One of the few mercies of this cruel disease is that when you reach what I call the end game, it seems to hit fast-forward and things move almost too quickly to a conclusion, but the journey to that stage can be awful to witness, because you are helpless to alleviate the pain.

I think what you are doing - you, your husband, and the neighbours and friends close to them, is to give them a supporting hand. It seems little, but it means so much, and can bolster your courage, your energy and your emotions when things seem to get on top of you. It's such a lonely thing - to feel that others care about you and what you are going through... and are not afraid to reach out, and talk about it, is a wonderful gift.

 

[May]

May, thank you for taking the time to come on here and update us. There are no words, really, but I feel so much for her husband and family, and of course for you and your husband. Please God she will be peaceful, and as you say out of her pain. At least with kind friends like you and your husband her family know others are thinking of them, and this must help a little. Easy for someone else to say, I know, but I firmly believe that we never completely lose those we love - my Mum used to say "happy memories are the one thing no thief can ever take from you", and it's so true. They are ours to keep, hopefully for the rest of our lives. Do hope her husband will have many happy memories to treasure and comfort him in the time ahead. xx

Thank you so much for your kind words Historymystery , really appreciate them, this is the kindest forum ever xxx

 

[May]

So sorry to hear about your neighbour's wife, but glad of the update, May. One of the few mercies of this cruel disease is that when you reach what I call the end game, it seems to hit fast-forward and things move almost too quickly to a conclusion, but the journey to that stage can be awful to witness, because you are helpless to alleviate the pain.

I think what you are doing - you, your husband, and the neighbours and friends close to them, is to give them a supporting hand. It seems little, but it means so much, and can bolster your courage, your energy and your emotions when things seem to get on top of you. It's such a lonely thing - to feel that others care about you and what you are going through... and are not afraid to reach out, and talk about it, is a wonderful gift.

Thank you so much too Maymorganlondon ..xxx

 

[May]

I know when this happens the time of the year has little bearing but I do think that in future years it makes Christmas such a difficult time for the family, instead of happy festive memories they are overshadowed by the memories of pain and the hurt they are now suffering.

Lets hope it is peaceful when the time comes as it is the best we can ask for.

Thank you so much loveallthingsitalian xxx