Emilie Barnes, American author (80+books) writes about her collection of English cups and saucers displayed in a cabinet, for years, for show only. One day, a glass shelf gave way and most were destroyed. She was devastated and weeping as she cleared up the mess. She sternly said to herself, "I never even used them; who am I saving them for, the Queen? Do I think she's going to come and visit me at my house?" The next time her little grandchildren visited, she had English tea and sandwiches with them, using her BestChina. She told them 'cause they were special guests in her house. The little ones were so well-behaved, learning manners and feeling special. Through the years they always ask, for SpecialTea at nana's for their birthday treat. Emilie says her family and friends are special enough for her BestChina. I was at a seminar, (her books on organising are fabulous!), and she told that story to about 400 women, and had a great impact, judging by the nodding heads. It did in my house, for sure.