Mother and Daughter "Event"

[Ellaaa]

I see QVC are cashing in on Mother's Day next Monday with an "event" day.

I am so tired of this, my Mum died 9 years ago when I was 20 years old and it has made me more aware over the past few years how much more Mother's Day is being marketed these days. There is nothing wrong with the occasion itself, but like all "occasions" it has become a massive marketing exercise and I am tired of the ridiculous amounts of money people are being pressurised to spend, as if it is the norm. A handmade card meant more than a £50 pot of face cream for my Mum and I'm sure it's the same for other mums out there.

Well, Q, I don't have a mother or a daughter so you have successfully managed to alienate me. Lucky really, as given how long postage takes it makes one wonder whether the "gift" would actually arrive before Mother's Day anyway :wink:

 

[Ballerina]

Hi Ellaaa,

I am very sorry that you lost your Mother and at such a young age.


I entirely agree with your sentiments, it is shameless marketing. I know it isn't just Q, they're all at it but I get fed up with this cr*p every year. Mothers, Fathers, Grandparents day, the list could go on for miles. Next there will be a worst enemy day! As soon as Mothers day has passed it will be Easter and Fathers day. I won't be watching or spending next week. I am lucky enough to still have my Mama but these days she lives in France and we don't follow these theme days, we try to show our love all year long. Anyway, as you say, with the slow delivery, it won't arrive in time for Mothers day this year!

Inge xx

 

[ERICS MUM]

Slight tangent. When I used to watch QVC every day, Julia Roberts used to get on my nerves when she said "buy it for your man". I felt a real failure for not having a man, obviously not part of this smug inner-sanctum of couples who buy each other pressies from shopping channels.

I hardly ever watch nowadays and when I do I realise how loud, pushy and OTT they are, can't imagine how I once enjoyed it.

 

[Akimbo]

I'm not a big fan of these "Days", it reminds me that my own Mum isn't here and I don't want my kids to feel obliged to spend their money (much of which comes from me and their Dad anyway) on commercial crap. I've kept lots of the early days home made efforts: There's a card my son made at first school which he's signed with his surname, maybe in case I wasn't sure who it was from, bless him! Now he's at Uni I had the best surprise last Mother's day when he came home from Uni for the day and I had no idea. It reminded me of the origins of Mothers' Day back in the days of people in service getting a day off to visit their Mums on Mothering Sunday. So if they pick up the phone or turn up on the doorstep I'll be very happy with that.

 

[Bettyboo]

I also agree with what's been said about these so called special days it's just a commercial bonanza as far as the retail business is concerned. I urge my daughters every year not to spend their hard earned cash on me and if they feel they do want to mark the occasion a card is suffice.

 

[Vienna]

I don`t have a Mum nor a daughter and my 3 sons have never been into marking Mothers Day with expensive gifts. I am so glad they don`t. I`ve always told them the nicest gift I could have is a regular phonecall from them, a visit from them whenever they`re able to and to simply know I am not forgotten. All 3 of my sons live too far away to see me on a regular basis but I love it when they show their love by taking time out to visit me as often as they can. My oldest son is in the Army, has been for 23 years and no matter where the Army has sent him, Afghanistan, Iraq, Bosnia etc etc he has always rung me at least once a week. Now THAT`S what i call showing your Mum you care.

 

[Autumn]

Did I miss something but when did "Mothers Day" become just about mothers and daughters? :mysmilie_506:, Don't sons count any longer then ?, I lost my mum several years ago so I will give this event a miss too, Im sure some jobs worth a Q towers did a market research exercise and came up with the idea for this event.

So for this event Qvc has excluded all men and Women without mums or daughters :taphead: Nice going Qvc , im sure it will be a roaring success :mysmilie_59:

 

[Docswife]

No mum or daughter here either. Miss mum very much even although it's been many years since she died. We were never allowed to buy expensive gifts for her!! 'Just a nice card' bless her. We always did buy her something of course, but she would have had a fit if we had bought some of the stuff they suggest on QVC!! Hardly watching theses days anyway......

 

[whitesnake]

I find Mothers Day very upsetting and am very glad when its over. I am lucky that my mum is alive but our relationship is quite difficult and nothing like the ideal that QVC, card shops etc portray. Also I have no children of my own which I try not to dwell on. However I do sometimes feel really heartbroken about this, like I am a failure. All you see in magazines now are these yummy mummys parading around with their children saying having children is the best thing they have ever done. For those of us who can't have children Mothers Day is a terrible time and I am so glad when the day is over .

 

[Mazza]

My late mother and I had a very tricky relationship so I have never really been part of the ideal that Q and others present. I could say the same about Christmas too. However, it is all just commercial opportunism surely. It never used to be like this when it was just called Mothering Sunday but, IMHO, it all went crazily sentimental a la USA when it became universally called Mother's Day.

 

[NIKKID]

I have a slightly different perspective on the whole mothers day thing. Thankfully my mum is still around and of course i pay her a visit and drop of a card and hopefully this year some daffodils from the garden. However for 15 years i was unable to have child despite many attempts at IFV and was constantly haunted by the whole mothers day thing. This year finally i have my darling boy - i wont expect a card or a gift, especially as my DH has lost his mother but i will be savouring a kiss and a cuddle from my special little treasure and having my very own private mothers day as i do every single day xox

 

[Weathergirl]

Mothers day is not really necessary for me to realise how amazingly lucky I am to have my 2 little ones and my mum still in my life. Reading all these posts reinforces this and I am sorry to read the sadness in some of these posts.I am always giving my mum stuff -not expensive. My children are too little to understand it or get anything for me. My husband usually sorts something out but it can be a bit random. I look forward to when they are big enough to make me breakfast in bed and pick a flower out of the garden though, I must confess.

 

[KimP]

It is sad that people get affected by these things, try not to think it is personal and aimed at you. Not having a mother or child does not exclude you from anything, your money is as good as anyone else's when it comes to QVC flogging stuff.

The first Mothers Day after my Mum died was hard, same as the first Christmas, Birthday etc but not now. Shopping TV and shop displays are just trivial things that have little impact on my life.

 

[Nora]

It annoys me when the children want to buy their Mum some flowers and the florists/shopkeepers put their prices up just for that one day! It was the same for Valentines day when they were selling the same flowers the next day at half price!! Greed, greed all the time.

 

[BusyLizzie]

It is sad that people get affected by these things, try not to think it is personal and aimed at you. Not having a mother or child does not exclude you from anything, your money is as good as anyone else's when it comes to QVC flogging stuff.

The first Mothers Day after my Mum died was hard, same as the first Christmas, Birthday etc but not now. Shopping TV and shop displays are just trivial things that have little impact on my life.

Wish I could say the same. It will be ten years this coming June since I lost my beloved Mum and I miss her almost as much today as I did then. I think about her every day as there always seems to be something to trigger off memories and I would have loved to share certain milestones and achievements.....such things as when our daughter graduated with a First in her Masters Chemical Engineering Degree, our son's continued success in his career and additions to the family (albeit doggy ones!), etc. etc.

Whilst I appreciate there are many people whose mother/daughter/son relationships aren't/weren't great plus, of course, those without daughters/sons themselves (whether by choice or otherwise) I really don't feel it's necessary to have one 'special day' allocated as such and all the hype and commercialism is unwarranted.

Mothers are very, very special every day.....come what may!

 

[HYPE in a JAR]

Whilst the commercialisation of these occasions can get in the way of the true sentiments I am all for having a special day in the calendar to celebrate all that Mothers have done and continue to do for us.

We all have a Mother and to have a special day where we can all stop and say thank you Mum I love you is a truly special thing. Even if she has passed, you can still stop and think of her and all that she did for you. Sad as it maybe to have lost her, you don't loose the love, or the memories.

Especially for young children, making the cards at school, finally being old enough to take her breakfast in bed, picking a flower from the garden etc, is a really beautiful thing. They give us life, look after us, feed and clothe us, change our nappies, take care of us when we are sick, so to have one day in the year when we can thank them for this, think of them and show them we care is a beautiful thing.

And whilst be it through choice, circumstance or even lack of opportunity if someone is not a Mother, yet has that desire, you can still be Motherly and show love and kindness to people who are not your offspring.

 

[Victoria plumb]

Well I guess qvc is a business and the name of their game is to make money so I don't think it's not unexpected that they market mothers day or Fathers Day.
I lost my father to cancer 5 years ago and whilst it's an emotional time on Fathers Day, I think about the memories and embrace my husbands day with his father and son.
I totally understand where people are coming from when you have that huge hole in your life but we can't shy away from other people wanting to celebrate special days.
As for q, well I don't think we should take their marketing too personally xxxx

 

[thatu]

QVC are out to make money so whether they upset half the population who wouldn't buy anything anyway (include me) doesn't bother them. They're looking for marketing opportunities, plain and simple. Personally I can't stand the blatant commercialization and assumption that everyone should (a) have someone to buy for and (b) be buying something, but I'm afraid it's here to stay. But it's very hard for people who've suffered loss of whatever kind, so my sympathies.

 

[srhgts]

Parents/grandparents days etc are a bit weird for me for assorted reasons but it doesn't really bother me on a personal level to see them being promoted. I sympathise totally with people who've lost their relatives and are upset by the reminder, though, it's no wonder that it can make things difficult. It must be so sad to be reminded of other people still having that person when you've lost yours.

 

[warwa100]

I'm not a big fan of Mothers Day. I don't have any children but I do have a Mum. I just think that, along with Fathers Day, Valentines Day, Halloween etc. are all too commercial. It's a way of the general public spending money unnecessarily in my opinion. I do however, of course, buy my Mother a present and get her a card. I always have done since being a child and wouldn't stop now, as I don't want to hurt her feelings. However, this year will be the first year I have thought about what to buy her rather than ask her if there is anything she wants (which is what we do in my family).

In another note, I've been seen on another thread that the next Yankee Candle TSV looks very Mothers Day orientated - when is this Mother & Daughters Event? xxx