As someone who had cancer last year, and has also been cheated on by my first husband, I found both things shocking. In fact the cancer diagnosis was less of a shock as I had been high risk for 20 years! As a nurse of many years experience I knew pretty well what the treatment and prognosis were. The disintegration of my first marriage was a much more unkown quantity!It really is impossible to judge how one person will react to any one thing-and it's pointless judging because we are all so different.