For the past two years I've been going to a summer music festival with a close friend. First year we went we met up with a group of four ladies of whom my friend came to know on a forum much like this one, we had a fabulous time and vowed to do it again the following year and that we did, however, this time my mate decided to invite another forum member along, a fella ...I can't say I was 100% happy, but then she said it's ok, he's bringing his daughter (18) along and I did feel more comfortable in that idea. He was a nice fella, and his daughter pleasant too, but we seemed to split up into two separate groups most of the time. Me, my mate, the guy and his daughter and the other 4 ladies. Don't get me wrong we still had a great time but not as good as the first year and when we booked again I thought to myself I'm going to make a concerted effort to spend more time in the company of the ladies, it's a great line up this year and I've been looking forward to it...but then the proverbial Sh*t hit the fan!
My mate soon after last year's festival admitted she'd be having an affair with the fella (he's married btw), his daughter knew and was cool with it! A few months afterwards she told her partner of this affair and they split, though remained living together under the same roof and still do! Man lives a long way away and they don't see each other that often. Cutting a long story short, my mate decided that it would be the right thing to do to announce to the other ladies in our group that she and Mr X are in a relationship and that his marriage has been long dead but they're staying together for the sake of their 13 year old son (she's unaware of the affair of course) and that the daughter's cool with it!
Sadly it turns out that the other ladies are far from cool with it and have decided that they don't want to camp with us this year full stop. I feel really sad about this. My mate questioned this and they basically all said that they weren't really happy last year that she'd invited a bloke along to our girlie camp without asking anyone else whether they minded and that a couple of the ladies husbands were none to pleased when they found out! My mate shot back at them and pretty much said that it wasn't her fault that in their little worlds people cant mix with the opposite sex or go anywhere without their partners without them feeling jealous or threatened and accused them of being small town and small minded. Though one of them retorted and I quote " Well it did your partner a lot of good didn't it?!"
I have over simplified this and theres a lot more to it, but I really liked those ladies and feel sad that we're going to lose touch. Hopefully I'll see them at the festival and we can talk. So wish she hadn't told them until we got there, selfish I know but hey!
My mate soon after last year's festival admitted she'd be having an affair with the fella (he's married btw), his daughter knew and was cool with it! A few months afterwards she told her partner of this affair and they split, though remained living together under the same roof and still do! Man lives a long way away and they don't see each other that often. Cutting a long story short, my mate decided that it would be the right thing to do to announce to the other ladies in our group that she and Mr X are in a relationship and that his marriage has been long dead but they're staying together for the sake of their 13 year old son (she's unaware of the affair of course) and that the daughter's cool with it!
Sadly it turns out that the other ladies are far from cool with it and have decided that they don't want to camp with us this year full stop. I feel really sad about this. My mate questioned this and they basically all said that they weren't really happy last year that she'd invited a bloke along to our girlie camp without asking anyone else whether they minded and that a couple of the ladies husbands were none to pleased when they found out! My mate shot back at them and pretty much said that it wasn't her fault that in their little worlds people cant mix with the opposite sex or go anywhere without their partners without them feeling jealous or threatened and accused them of being small town and small minded. Though one of them retorted and I quote " Well it did your partner a lot of good didn't it?!"
I have over simplified this and theres a lot more to it, but I really liked those ladies and feel sad that we're going to lose touch. Hopefully I'll see them at the festival and we can talk. So wish she hadn't told them until we got there, selfish I know but hey!